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Luke 16:18

Divorce is certainly no new subject nor is it a pleasant thing to speak about but our society has gotten so far out of God's perspective we feel compelled to address the subject in this sermon.  We want to start from a Biblical approach with the hope of saving at least some agony and maybe keep your marriage from ending in divorce.

Luke 16:18- "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery, and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery".
Romans 7:3- "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adultress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law, so that she is no adultress, though she be married to another man".

Marriage between unsaved people is a Godless union.       
There is a likely chance someone will not like what I am saying about their marriage being a Godless union but it is a fact that lost people marry outside of the Lord's grace. You might be good moral people and you might very well love each other but the marriage is in your hands without
God's Holy Spirit to guide you as a couple because at the very best a newly married partnership can be a rocky road until adjustments are made between partners to make them compatible with each others thoughts and life style. God has no specific instructions for the marriage of those who do not know him in the free pardon of sin. Their only instructions are that they both need to repent of their sins individually and ask the Lord to come into their hearts to make them born again believers. Most Baptist ministers council unmarried couples to verify that they are born again before bringing them into union with each other in marriage.

2- Marriage is an unequal yolk when one is saved and one lost.
Often when one partner accepts the Lord and the other remains unsaved, the marriage is in trouble because it is an unequal yolk and they are pulling in different directions; one for the Lord and the other toward the world. One good thought however is that the saved partner has the power of prayer and the word of God to help bring their mate to Christ.
In all likelihood a marriage that doesn't start right isn't going to end right with many of them ending in divorce. If it started in violation of God's word in the first place with an unequal yolk there will be problems and most couples can't cope with them for long. Christians are exhorted by God's word to marry only a born again believer and the reason for that is that the Lord can help them through difficult times by the leadership of His indwelling Spirit. The devil is just waiting for an opportunity to get between marriage partners to destroy the union.

3- Marriage between carnal Christians can be shaky.
In the old testament book of Dueteronomy moses gave instructions for a divorce when couples couldn't find compatibility but God's people had gotten so carnal by that time that Moses thought it necessary to try and make a way out for them when a marriage was in trouble. God never intended for marriages to end in divorce and Jesus condemned the practice of divorce in the New Testament as we will show later but I want to go to the book of Genesis and read how God Himself performed the first marriage and gave commandment for the couple to remain together.

4- The first marriage.      
The first mention principal of Bible interpretation introduces a thought that will remain the same throughout scripture.

In the creative acts of God from the book of Genesis there are several first mentioned things but we are especially interested in the placement of mankind in creation at this time. all the "firsts" will lead to God performing the first marriage with husband and wife as well as the human relationship between mankind and God.

(1)- The first mention of man.
was on day number six in the creative acts of God.

God created man and called him Adam which means, "Red Man of earth".

Genesis 2:7- "And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul".
The breath of life gave mankind a God conscienceness.

(2)- Man's first emotion was loneliness.
Genesis 2:18- "And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him". The Hebrew words "help meet"- mean, one who is suitable for his needs.

(3)- The first mention of Woman.
The first surgical procedure and the first anesthetic experience.

God took Woman from Adam's side because he wanted her to remain by his side for the duration of both their lives. God created them male and female to be bound together as a family unit.

Genesis 2:21- "And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept; and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman",

(4)- The first marriage was performed by the Lord God Himself.

(A)- God presented her.
Genesis 2:22- "The Lord God took the woman and brought her unto the man".

(B)- The husband accepted her.
s 2:23-
"And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman because she was taken out of man".

(C)- The two are bound for life.
Genesis 2:24-
"Therefore shall a man leave his
father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh ".
God never wanted that "one flesh" marriage to end in separation and Jesus said so in Mark 10:6-9- "But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female, for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder ". In these early verses God is warning mankind that it is wrong to put away your marriage partner.

5-The first problem.

first mention of Satan introduced disobedience and deception.

Genesis 3:1- Disobedience to God's word was put into practice by the devil. There are 4 characteristics of satan that I want to point out that began in the garden of Eden and are still being practiced today.

1- Satan is subtle. Genesis 3:1-
The Hebrew word for subtle is aw-room' which means shrewd or sly.

Satan was and is actively seeking to destroy Gods Word and Gods plan for the home and he is so shrewd and sly that you might not know who is behind it all!

Genesis 3:1-
"Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said unto the Woman, Yea hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden "?

2- Satan questioned Gods word.
Genesis 3:1-"Hath God said"?

3- Satan disputed God's word. Genesis 3:4-
He told the woman that God had misinformed her.

Genesis 3:4- "And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die": The first mention of woman as the weaker vessel and the first mention of how Satan works to destroy the plan of God in the lives of his people is found in these verses and it has been the same ever since!

4- Satan caused disobedience to God's word and he is still doing that today.

(a)- Women taking leadership roles over the man are the work of Satan and many divorces are caused by rebellion from women thinking they should be making decisions without discussing them with their husbands!

(b)- Homosexuality and lesbianism are not alternate lifestyles as they would like us to think but are damnable heresies in the sight of God. God made one man for one woman for life and It makes me sick to hear some liberal preacher say that they are born as homosexuals and God will accept them as they are! No, Not in a million years! They are going to Hell unless they repent and be born again. When that happens, they will have a new heart and their desires will be brought in line with scripture.

6- Mankind cursed first mentioned. Genesis ch.3
(1)- The curse happened because of sin and disobedience to God word.

(2)- The curse changed the husband and wife relationship with each other as well as with their creator. Genesis 3:16-17.

(3)- The curse drove mankind from the paradise of comfort.
Genesis 3:23-24- " Therefore the Lord God sent him forth from the garden of Eden to till the ground from whence he was taken. verse 24 -" So he drove out the man; and he placed at the east of the garden of Eden Cherubims and a flaming sword which turned every way, to keep the way of the tree of life ".

There are five results of the curse.  Genesis 3:16-17

(1)- Man making a living for his family by the sweat of his brow.

(2)- The woman bearing children in pain.

(3)- The woman being subordinate to her husband.

(4)- The life span shortened from forever to numbered years.

(5)- The appointment of death for the body.

Genesis 3:16-17- "Unto the woman he (God) said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. And unto Adam he (God) said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life". God set up the Home with a man and a woman and it doesn't matter what you or some liberation movement think about it; God isn't going to change his mind nor will he tolerate your different opinions about it! God's plan is one man with one woman for life!

With all that said we see how God established the home and gave instructions for it beginning in the book of Genesis at creation but by the time we get to 1451 B.C. we see how the human race had degenerated  to  look very similar to our present day  ruin with permission from Moses to give a bill of divorcment and to separate one's self from a partner in marriage for any and every cause.

7-  Divorce was first mentioned 2,553 years after creation.  
(1)- Moses gave permission for divorce.
Deuteronomy 24:1-2
"When a man hath taken a
wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because of some uncleanness in her; then let him write her a bill of divorcement and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house, and when she is departed out of his house; she may go and be another man’s wife"
. This scripture is where we get what has been called, "A quickie divorce". "Putting her or him away for every cause"!

(2)- Jesus condemned divorce.
Jesus said that he who puts away his wife or their
husband is committing adultery!  Matthew 19:3-9- "The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 19:4 “And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 19:5 And said For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh. 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 19:7 They say unto him, why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives; but from the beginning it was not so. 19:9 And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery".
I have heard some liberal preachers say that Jesus said, "Except it be for fornication" and excuse themselves as being qualified to pastor a church but that is not the instructions the Holy Spirit had the Apostle Paul write for the setting up of the New Testament Church. The Greek word for the husband of "One" wife means the only one he ever had! The Pastor's wife being in subjection is just as important as his marriage arrangement. His children who are under his roof being in subjection is likewise equally as important. Many so called Pastors do not Biblically qualify to pastor a church on either of these three aspects of life! (See my sermon on Qualifications for a Pastor).

(3)- New Testament Grace gives a Spirit led concept to marriage.

(a)- Always remain faithful to your companion.
1-Cor. 7:10- "And unto the married I command, yet not I but the Lord, let not the wife depart from her husband".

(b)- Always seek a born again believer if you are unmarried.
1-Cor. 7:39- "The wife is bound by the Law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord".

(c)- Always seek spiritual council if you are in trouble with your marriage.
I-Cor. 7:11- "But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife".


If you are unmarried, and a Christian you would be wise to pray for God to send the one who will honor God and most of all one who is truly born again. The worst tragedy you could encounter would be to marry a lost person. There will be conflict from day one! Don’t think you can influence him or her to become a Christian because it usually doesn't happen and even if it does eventually happen, you will suffer torment during the process. If you married an unsaved person and your marriage is not in trouble; God instructs a christian to remain married with a spiritual attitude which will often bring your spouse to a salvation experience but if it becomes an abusive relationship that you can't live with, you are permitted to divorce the abusive partner but you are given a commandment from the Lord to either remain unmarried or to be reconciled to your partner. There are no exceptions for the New Testament Christian. It you have already made the mistake of divorce and remarriage while your former partner is alive; you should pray and ask the Lord to place past sins under the Blood of Christ and go on with your life and make the best you can out of it with God's help.

Listen to Gods instructions and be happy! Listen to fleshly desires and be troubled! If you are not saved yourself, the first and most important decision of your life is to trust Christ as your personal Savior today!

By James Tyson Sr.