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has happened to
Home in particular and to homes in general in America?
a broad sense I
could answer that
in one sentence; we have departed from God's way and instituted our own
way but that would not be specific enough for you to get the message.
do so many marriages end in divorce?
(1)- Most likely because it
didn't begin right.
reason is; If a
marriage didn't begin right, it in all likelihood isn't going to end
right. People who live together without being sworn to each other in
marriage are essentially just using each other for carnal benefits.
Then children come along from those out of wedlock relationships with
pressures that often are more than the couple can cope with. America
currently is overwhelmed with single parent homes where there aren't
enough finances to make the marriage work.
(2)- Divorce comes because of
an unequal yolk.
Christians who marry lost people are asking for trouble because the
unsaved partner is going to pull against Godly perspectives and it will
be a constant battle until both are saved and sometimes it
doesn't happen and marriages are broken.
2 Corinthians 6:14- "Be ye not
unequally yolked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath
righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with
darkness ? If Christ isn't the
matchmaker, most likely the yolk will be unequal and partners will
pull against each other. God put it like this: "Except the Lord build the house
they labour in vain that build it". Psalms 127:1.
comes because of
associated with carnality in most cases or
because the abuser is unsaved. Council by a Pastor can often help
with lost people getting saved and carnal christians dedicating their
lives to the Lord and to their spouses.
language along with physical abuse with alcohol and tobacco usage are
to drive a child of God crazy and you wonder why God told us not to
become unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
are so many teenagers having babies out of
wedlock, doing drugs, committing violent crimes and
showing arrogant disrespect for authority?
(1)- Because of
it is because the christian home has become so worldly and
non compliant with biblical principals. Proverbs 29:15- "A child left to himself bringeth his
mother to shame".
(2)- Because of peer pressure.
We send our children to a
school for twelve years if they make it that far; to be indoctrinated
by every social evil known to man and when life becomes ugly, we wonder
where we failed our children. God said in Proverbs
22:6- "Train up a child in the way he
should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."
Because praying role models are left out.
happened to the
Fathers and Mothers and
Children gathered around the family altar and
discussed scripture and individually prayed for each other as well as
for people whom the Lord laid upon their hearts ?
What happened to
bowing heads and
asking God's blessings over the meal before we eat? My family
practiced doing this even while eating in restaurants with people
gathered all around. We never made a public spectacle out of ourselves
but several times we had people come over to our table and tell us how
they appreciated seeing a family that said grace before meals. God
expects his people to be witnesses in every aspect of our lives and if
you don't teach your children to be respectful to others and to give
God honor where honor is due; we will raise them to be careless in
life. I will never forget a message Dr. Harold Sightler preached during
our years at Tabernacle Baptist Church. It was titled: "How to raise a
fool". The gist of the sermon was that neglect of order and authority
home with God at it's helm will cause you to raise a fool. The bible
has much to say about being a fool. Proverbs 14:9-"Fools make a mock of sin". Psalms 14:1
and Psalms 53:1- "The fool hath
said in his heart that there is
no God". If parents don't
raise up a child to
know the Lord they will say that there is no God. They will also make a
mock of sin and follow evil as a lifestyle!
(4)- Because disrespect for parents
5:16- "Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God
commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well
with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee."
(5)- Because of working Mothers
Another reason our
children are out
of touch is because Mother is working a secular job; when she
at home seeing after the needs of the Children. I know this is another
category where I get called ugly names but God gave us instructions on
how to maintain a Christian home in the book of Titus and most homes
trouble because we failed to follow God's instructions!
3- Wives what will keep your
Titus 2:4- Follow the instructions God
women who were instructed to teach the younger
women concerning marriage.
(1)-Women are instructed to be sober.
Titus 2:4- "That they may teach
the younger women
to be sober".
The Greek word for
sober is so-fron-id'-zo which
means to hold one to their duty. It doesn't relate directly to being
intoxicated by alcohol or drugs but it could include that.
A young wife and mother definitely has a duty in the home as God's word
(2)- Women are instructed to remain in
Titus 2:4- "To
love their husbands".
The Greek word for love
is fil'-an-dros which
means to be a companion and a friend.
My wife is the best friend I ever had. She shares my love for the
things of God, she has stood by me all these years while enduring
criticism from people who rebelled against God's word on the mission
field, she endured the
hardships of traveling to scores of church meetings while looking for
we put over 300,000 miles on a Plymouth van that got a whopping
10 miles to the gallon. She gave us five children and taught them
through home schooling most of the time, she cooked meals, cleaned the
house, washed clothes for seven people and she loved me even when
sickness prevailed and when food was scarce. What more can a man desire
than such a gift from God as described in Proverbs 18:22- "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good
thing, and obtaineth
favour of the Lord".
(3)- Women who nurture their children
will also keep your marriage alive.
Titus 2:4- "To love their children".
The Greek word for love
in this verse is fil-ot'-ek-nos which means an affectionate person.
There is no greater love outside of God's love than a Godly mother's
love. I can't imagine how a mother could abandon or abuse her children
like we hear about every time we see the news on TV or read about in
news papers. Drugs many times make a mother of lower moral character
than a common dog. I don't think a christian mother could stoop that
(4)- Women who stay home and keep the house
will keep your marriage alive.
Titus 2:4- "To be discreet, chaste,
keepers at home".
The Greek word for
discreet is so'-frone which
means to be sane in one's senses.
The Greek word for chaste is hag-nos' which means to be pure
from carnality, immaculate, clean.
The Greek word for Keepers at home is oy-koo-ros' which means a domestic.
A keeper of the home who is taking care of household affairs. God
absolutely instructs christian wives and mothers to stay home and see
after the affairs of the home. I know that this is not a popular thing
to teach or preach but silence on such matters is the reason our homes
are in such a mess!
I think the Lord allows an exception in cases where dead beat fathers
and husbands refuse to take care of his family but God is going to
judge that man for his neglect and you can count of it!
(5)- Women who put on a smile and honor
God usually keep their marriages alive.
Titus 2:4- "good, obedient to their own
husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed".
The Greek word for good in this verse is
means to be a good natured person.
To be quite frank with you, this is what every christian should be like.
The Greek word for obedient is hoop-of-as'-so which means to be in subjection, to be a
subordinate, to subject one's self to obedience.
Here is where many christian women get off the train and head for
places unknown. It should be no problem for a godly woman to
subordinate herself to a God fearing husband who loves his wife as the
Lord instructs, as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. I
wouldn't expect any woman to subordinate herself to a selfish man who
cared more about carnal things than his wife and children. A husband
should seek his wife's best in everything he does, He should be her
protector, Her provider, Her constant companion, Her comfort when
trials come, Her room mate, Her Soul mate, Her reason for being such a
person as God's word implies in Titus chapter two.
4- Husbands what will keep
Ephesians 5:25- "Husbands love
your wives, even as
Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for
Treat them with
3:19- "Husbands, love
your wives, and be not
bitter against them". The Greek
word for bitter is pik-rah'-ee-no which means to
deal bitterly with them.
much of the time husbands forget that his wife is the love of his life.
They seem to want the wife to be a fixture awaiting his command. God
never gave you the authority to deal with your wife in anger nor did he
give you the right to make them feel inferior by your attitude!
If Husbands and wives would
make their home like the one described in Titus chapter two we would
see more homes without single parent providers, more homes without
rebellious children, more homes that God could bless. It will take some
dedication and much prayer to get our homes back to what God planned
for them but with the Lord's help it is possible. We need to start with
confession, repentance and asking for the Lord to help us be what we
By James Tyson Sr.