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Titus 2 and colossians 3

What has happened to the Christian Home in particular and to homes in general in America?
In a broad sense I could answer that in one sentence; we have departed from God's way and instituted our own way but that would not be specific enough for you to get the message.

1- Why do so many marriages end in divorce?

(1)- Most likely because it didn't begin right.
The primary reason is; If a marriage didn't begin right, it in all likelihood isn't going to end right. People who live together without being sworn to each other in marriage are essentially just using each other for carnal benefits. Then children come along from those out of wedlock relationships with pressures that often are more than the couple can cope with. America currently is overwhelmed with single parent homes where there aren't enough finances to make the marriage work.

(2)- Divorce comes because of an unequal yolk.
Christians who marry lost people are asking for trouble because the unsaved partner is going to pull against Godly perspectives and it will be a constant battle until both are saved and sometimes it doesn't happen and marriages are broken.
2 Corinthians 6:14- "Be ye not unequally yolked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness ? If Christ isn't the matchmaker, most likely the yolk will be unequal and partners will pull against each other. God put it like this: "Except the Lord build the house they  labour in vain that build it". Psalms 127:1.

(3)- Divorce comes because of physical abuse.
Abuse is associated with carnality in most cases or because the abuser is unsaved. Council by a Pastor can often help with lost people getting saved and carnal christians dedicating their lives to the Lord and to their spouses.

Ungodly language along with physical abuse with alcohol and tobacco usage are enough to drive a child of God crazy and you wonder why God told us not to become unequally yoked together with unbelievers.

2- Why are so many teenagers having babies out of wedlock, doing drugs, committing violent crimes and showing arrogant disrespect for authority?

(1)- Because of worldly homes.
I am persuaded it is because the christian home has become so worldly and non compliant with biblical principals. Proverbs 29:15- "A child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame".

(2)- Because of peer pressure.
We send our children to a secular school for twelve years if they make it that far; to be indoctrinated by every social evil known to man and when life becomes ugly, we wonder where we failed our children. God said in
Proverbs 22:6- "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."

(3)- Because praying role models are left out.
What happened to the home where Fathers and Mothers and Children gathered around the family altar and discussed scripture and individually prayed for each other as well as for people whom the Lord laid upon their hearts ?

What happened to bowing heads and asking God's blessings over the meal before we eat? My family and I practiced doing this even while eating in restaurants with people gathered all around. We never made a public spectacle out of ourselves but several times we had people come over to our table and tell us how they appreciated seeing a family that said grace before meals. God expects his people to be witnesses in every aspect of our lives and if you don't teach your children to be respectful to others and to give God honor where honor is due; we will raise them to be careless in life. I will never forget a message Dr. Harold Sightler preached during our years at Tabernacle Baptist Church. It was titled: "How to raise a fool". The gist of the sermon was that neglect of order and authority in the home with God at it's helm will cause you to raise a fool. The bible has much to say about being a fool. Proverbs 14:9-"Fools make a mock of sin". Psalms 14:1 and Psalms 53:1- "The fool hath said in his heart that there is no God". If parents don't raise up a child to know the Lord they will say that there is no God. They will also make a mock of sin and follow evil as a lifestyle!

(4)- Because disrespect for parents is allowed.
Deuteronomy 5:16-
"Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee."

(5)- Because of working Mothers leaving children unsupervised.
Another reason our children are out of touch is because Mother is working a secular job
; when she should be at home seeing after the needs of the Children. I know this is another category where I get called ugly names but God gave us instructions on how to maintain a Christian home in the book of Titus and most homes are in trouble because we failed to follow God's instructions!

3- Wives what will keep your marriage alive?
Titus 2:4- Follow the  instructions God Gave the older women who were instructed to teach the younger women concerning marriage.

(1)-Women are instructed to be sober.
Titus 2:4- "That they may teach the younger women to be sober".
The Greek word for sober is so-fron-id'-zo which means to hold one to their duty. It doesn't relate directly to being intoxicated by alcohol or drugs but it could include that.
A young wife and mother definitely has a duty in the home as God's word describes.

(2)- Women are instructed to remain in love.
Titus 2:4- "To love their husbands".
The Greek word for love is fil'-an-dros which means to be a companion and a friend.
My wife is the best friend I ever had. She shares my love for the things of God, she has stood by me all these years while enduring criticism from people who rebelled against God's word on the mission field, she endured the hardships of traveling to scores of church meetings while looking for mission suppor. we put over 300,000 miles on a Plymouth van that got a whopping 10 miles to the gallon. She gave us five children and taught them through home schooling most of the time, she cooked meals, cleaned the house, washed clothes for seven people and she loved me even when sickness prevailed and when food was scarce. What more can a man desire than such a gift from God as described in Proverbs 18:22- "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord".

(3)- Women who nurture their children will also keep your marriage alive.
Titus 2:4-
"To love their children".
The Greek word for love in this verse is fil-ot'-ek-nos which means an affectionate person.
There is no greater love outside of God's love than a Godly mother's love. I can't imagine how a mother could abandon or abuse her children like we hear about every time we see the news on TV or read about in the news papers. Drugs many times make a mother of lower moral character than a common dog. I don't think a christian mother could stoop that low however.

(4)- Women who stay home and keep the house will keep your marriage alive.
Titus 2:4-
"To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home".
The Greek word for discreet is so'-frone which means to be sane in one's senses.

The Greek word for chaste is hag-nos' which means to be pure from carnality, immaculate, clean.
The Greek word for Keepers at home is oy-koo-ros' which means a domestic.
A keeper of the home who is taking care of household affairs. God absolutely instructs christian wives and mothers to stay home and see after the affairs of the home. I know that this is not a popular thing to teach or preach but silence on such matters is the reason our homes are in such a mess!
I think the Lord allows an exception in cases where dead beat fathers and husbands refuse to take care of his family but God is going to judge that man for his neglect and you can count of it!

(5)- Women who put on a smile and honor husbands and God usually keep their marriages alive.
Titus 2:4-
"good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed".

The Greek word for good in this verse is ag-ath-os' which means to be a good natured person.
To be quite frank with you, this is what every christian should be like.

The Greek word for obedient is hoop-of-as'-so which means to be in subjection, to be a subordinate, to subject one's self to obedience.
Here is where many christian women get off the train and head for places unknown. It should be no problem for a godly woman to subordinate herself to a God fearing husband who loves his wife as the Lord instructs, as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. I wouldn't expect any woman to subordinate herself to a selfish man who cared more about carnal things than his wife and children. A husband should seek his wife's best in everything he does, He should be her protector, Her provider, Her constant companion, Her comfort when trials come, Her room mate, Her Soul mate, Her reason for being such a person as God's word implies in Titus chapter two.

4- Husbands what will keep your marriage alive?
(1)- Practice supreme love.
Ephesians 5:25- "Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it";                                                                                                                          
(2)- Treat them with respect.
Collossians 3:19- "Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them". The Greek word for bitter is pik-rah'-ee-no which means to deal bitterly with them.

Too much of the time husbands forget that his wife is the love of his life. They seem to want the wife to be a fixture awaiting his command. God never gave you the authority to deal with your wife in anger nor did he give you the right to make them feel inferior by your attitude!


If Husbands and wives would make their home like the one described in Titus chapter two we would see more homes without single parent providers, more homes without rebellious children, more homes that God could bless. It will take some dedication and much prayer to get our homes back to what God planned for them but with the Lord's help it is possible. We need to start with confession, repentance and asking for the Lord to help us be what we should be!

By James Tyson Sr.